The opening post exemplify everything I hate about bad Chinuch.
You could explain what is the conception of romance, why is it wrong and what’s is the true meaning of marriage.
Instead you just make a vague statement (romance is bad) say that some Rav said it’s very bad, and that it also causes a lot of divorces. You also say that many women have these misconception (so that they can recognize the evil thoughts when they come and drive them away)
Children absorb all this nonsense and they grow up and think: “So if I want him to remember my birthday, is that romance? Am I risking our marriage by expecting him to call me from work once a day”? Because you never explained anything to them. You just scared them.