One more point that is really important that I already kind of mentioned. The bottom line is that divorces that are initiated by the wife can more or less be divided into two categories: those in which the marriage could have been saved and those in which it couldn’t. (I realize that’s a bit simplistic). Rav Avigdor Miller is talking about those that could have been saved. I think that any intelligent person would realize that there are marriages that fall in one category and marriages that fall in another.
There are two points of contention here: 1. What percentage fall in each category? 2. What defines a marriage as not working and requiring a divorce?
In terms of question 1, I don’t know if anyone has the answer and I don’t know if it would be possible to get an answer. It also might depend on the year, the country, the ages of the couple, and the specific group within the Orthodox community. In any case, it is irrelevant, since all that matters is the specific couple in question.
2. Are you talking about marriages that are not-Great or marriages that are terrible? I have been talking about marriages that are terrible. It is possible that Rav Avigdor Miller was talking about marriages that are okay, but not great.
The point is that there may not even be a disagreement or at least not a substantial one between Rav Avigdor Miller and myself. It is hard to know since one would have to know the exact situations that he was talking about, and even if one is familiar with the situation, there are many details that one may not be aware of.
The bottom line is that one has to be EXCEEEDINGLY careful when quoting something like this, since even if Rav A. Miller was right, what he said might not be relevant to the situation at hand. In this case, these posts seem to have been in response to the other thread, and as I wrote there, they are irrelevant to that situation.