benignuman, you’re entitled to your opinion on divorce. The problem is when people make it seem like it’s the only possible opinion and put down people who do feel that divorce is necessary. In this case, this thread seems to be an extension of another thread having to do with a woman who is miserable and feels that her husband has been controlling and abusive to her for over 20 years. In that thread, I had written that if they go for marriage counseling AND it is not successful and the therapists and Rabbanim involved recommend a divorce and the wife wants a divorce, I don’t think it’s right for the husband to refuse to grant a Get.
These quotes from Rav Avigdor Miller seem to have been brought here in order to encourage the husband to refuse to grant his wife a Get even in the above circumstances, and I think that is wrong! And I have a feeling that Rav Avigdor Miller would agree as well. (Remember, I was only talking about after they try working things out IF they are unsuccessful).