“Of course HKB”Hs Will comes before a persons own. One certainly doesn’t prioritize himself. Batel Retzoincho Mipnei Retzonoi…”
“One places Hashem above himself.”
True of course. But in the above context, I wasn’t sure if it was relevant. When I wrote that he might have to leave to take care of himself, no one questioned his prioritizing his own needs.
You can only serve Hashem if you take care of yourself, and since “Ishto k’gufo” the same is true regarding taking care of your wife.
Bottom line: Man’s only purpose in life is to serve Hashem. Sometimes that is best done by taking care of his wife or himself. It depends on the situation. If we’re talking about other people, we should assume the best.