btw, I only made that comment about “ishto k’gufo” because your comment about priorities reminded me of a conversation I had with someone many years ago that really upset me, but I realize now your comment was not meant the same way at all.
In the course of a conversation with a teacher regarding someone he had set me up with, I mentioned that I would want to marry someone who considers me more important than his learning and his response was, “He has you and he has his learning; why should one be more important than the other.” I found that really offensive.
It’s possible he didn’t understand what I meant and didn’t understand why his comment was offensive, and it’s possible you won’t either. It may have something to do with the difference between how men and women understand things, but whatever.
In any case, I realize now that that had nothing to do with your comment.