yekke2-What should I do if I get a call in the middle of Seder, and its my wife calling me to come kill a spider that’s scaring her?”
I am a simple Jew, a lot depends how scared she is and what type of spider it is. It can be a matter of life and death if the spider is poisonous or if the wife can be scared to death example she has heart conditions. Tell her to leave and lock the house/ apt. and go to a friend or neighbor. Once she is in a SAFE environment and calmed down then you can tell her about the importance of your learning and she will understand.