It depends on which side you’re on…
As others would say; sometimes you have to really give it to the selfish rasha of a quy.. other times you have to (with AideleKite and lots of ‘geduld’, of course) explain to the princess in question to give up on some of her unrealistic demands..
The picture get more clear if you’re involved, if you’re on one of the sides.. if you “reall know” “everything”. Oh yeah!