lesshumras: One shouldn’t forget there are usually two sides to any story. Very few men claim they are not giving a “get” because they feel they can profit by blackmailing the wife’s family into giving lots of money, even though the man admits he deserves nothing. The beauty of a enforcing the rule that the man gets dunned for her expenses is that it incentivizes him to give a get withour dubious forms of coercion. Similarly, if the Beis Din can threaten to pick up her legal expenses (or his if she is being a problem, which is rare), that will greatly encourage compliance out of self-interest.
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