LF- he was talking to me. That’s why I thought it didn’t make sense. When he speaks to another man, it makes sense to say “my wife” in order to create a boundary between his wife and the other man.
But when he is speaking to another girl, adraba, the distance is supposed to be between him and her and not between him and his wife. So I felt like it was creating the opposite of the intended effect. L’maaseh, I don’t think it was a big deal since I understood what his intention was in saying “my wife”, but I just personally thought it would have been MORE tznius for him to refer to his wife by her first name when speaking to another girl. Maybe when he spoke to me, he shouldn’t have used my name. Or better yet, maybe he shouldn’t have spoken to me at all. But I thought this way was a bit funny and self-defeating.