LuL:
In looking back now, I do see a post that was once not visible.
Unfortunately I have no knowledge of the Ger minhagim, nor of the Steipler’s ruling.
About walking on the table, well I know about some guys walking completely barefoot on HaShem’s holy ‘table’.
But, you know what? WinnieThePooh is correct. I don’t have to mix my pudgy little being into great mountains. Chassidim, as opposed to common theory or speculation, have great, great shoulders on whom to rely. There’s a CLEAR answer to each and every aspect of their minhagim, kulos and chumros. No, they aren’t just a wild horde of hooligans c”v.
If it really interests you, go to each community, as take up the issues (respectfully) with a leader, Rav, or Rabbi of that community. You’d be surprised!!!
Hmm…You challenged her somewhat strongly, I’m not sure it’s fair to just say you’ve changed your mind…(just my opinion)