“I disagree with you, if you are rebuking someone it has to be done privately so as not to embarrass them in public and lose your portion in the next world. I believe that if you rebuke in public (when others are around) the recipient is less likely to accept it as he will lose face amongst his peers, rather it should be done only in private and respectively. Even in a case that was 100% Motzi Shem Ra and you rebuked and you embarrassed your friend publicly, whitening the face of your friend, you MAY have lost your portion in the next world. I maybe wrong but I think the YWN Coffee Room is considered a public forum.
Please Note I am not an expert in this field nor am I trying to criticize anyone but merely trying to understand these laws The above comments are solely my opinion and should not be viewed as Halochah Lemisah, (Jewish Law) nor should that they treated as if they were brought down by Moses from Mount Sinai.”
It’s not me you are disagreeing with – it’s the Chofetz Chaim. The Chofetz Chaim clearly states otherwise, as I quoted above. It is assur for you to have an opinion that goes against Halacha, and it certainly is assur for you to publicize an opinion that is contrary to Halacha.
Abba- I don’t understand something. You yourself said that you have not learned the halachos of Loshon Hora, so how can you give an “opinion” regarding the halacha? You claim that you are trying to understand the halacha; I told you what the halacha is and gave you the source. Why don’t you look it up or ask a sheilah instead of continually claiming that you don’t think it’s the halacha (even though you haven’t learned the halachos, and I have and I gave you the source)?
Again, I am sorry that you feel that I embarrassed you. I wish that there was a way to avoid it, but according to halacha, that is what I had to do. If I could have phrased things more sensitively than I did, I apologize and I hope you are moichel me, but to be silent would have been assur.
I do have to say that I am puzzled by the fact that you have not once thanked me for trying to spare you from Gehinnom!!! Aren’t you happy that I let you know that what you said was Motzi Sheim Ra so that you can try to have it deleted and avoid gehinnom?
By the way, according to your theory, it would be assur for you to publicly embarrass me by saying that I have publicly embarrassed you and will c”v lose my cheilik in Olam Haba as a result.