“I meant that saying someone is stupid is unnecessarily more insulting than saying someone is not intelligent.
The fact that you used that example suggests that in an equivalent example to what Abba_s said, you would not seem correct, so you exaggerated.”
That is not true and is irrelevant. You had said that you didn’t think that a speculation could be considered LH. I was giving an example of a speculation that is clearly LH in order to show you that a speculation could be LH. I said “stupid” as opposed to “not intelligent” because it never would have occurred to me to say “not intelligent” instead of “stupid”. (although perhaps if I had chazered the Parsha this week, I would have.)
“When someone has commitment issues, they are not dating for marriage purposes, although they often think they are.”
1. Now, you phrased things very differently than he did. You said that they are not dating for marriage purposes, although they think they are.
That is very different from what he said.
2.”It was l’toeles, because his explanation was more reasonable than yours.”
I had already included this explanation as a possibility, but I said it in the least negative way possible, and made sure to mention that it is only one possibility and that there are many others. Which there are.