The author of the thread asked ” Guys please explain this behavior”. Guy are usually males which I am. I theorized that the boy has commitment problems based on the facts presented and was falsely accused of Motzi Shem Ra. I believe the charge is false for the following reasons:
A)In order to be guilty of Motzi Shem Ra you have to know and be speaking about a specific person. In this case there is no way I or anyone else knows who the boy is.
B)In order to be guilty of Motzi Shem Ra you have to state a derogatory fact. In this case the only way I could know if the boy actually has commitment problem is if I had Ruach Hakodish or unless they are accusing me of being a False Prophet which is a capital offence.
C)In order to be guilty of Motzi Shem Ra you have to state a derogatory comment. I don’t see this being a derogatory comment. The boy/man may not even realize he has a commitment problem. He feels pressured to make a decision as to marriage is unsure and in error decides to find someone else who maybe his true love.
I know this wouldn’t change the minds of my hard core detractors and is only meant to dissuade the undecided who may think it’s a Mitzvah to accuse someone in a similar situation and lose their portion in the world to come.