Helpful, would you ask Beis Din to beat your wife if she refused to wash your feet? I know there was one posek who said you were allowed to actually strike your wife yourself…I guess I’m confusing the Rambam with him.
What I don’t understand is why anyone would spank their kids if its not necessary. And no one has given me a case where it IS necessary. There are many effective methods that work. Why risk your child resenting you for spanking them?