lilmod ulelamaid – If marriage is a “Mitzvah Kiyumis” and R’ Moshe held that the Rambam held that Yishav Eretz Yisroel is also a “Mitzvah Kiyumis”. If you are living in Israel you have taken on the Mitzvah of Yishav Eretz Yisroel, to populate the land of Israel, and to populate the land you need to marry someone. Also the reason they want to draft the Yeshiva Bochurim is because they want them to SHARE THE BURDEN for protecting Israel. If this is true shouldn’t you also Share the Burden for giving birth to the next generation of Yidden.
Also a person who isn’t commanded but fulfills the Mitzvah gets less credit than the one who is commanded to do so. Thus according to you the wife who goes through the pain of childbirth gets less credit than the husband who didn’t feel a thing unless you count sympathy pain. I don’t think it’s fair.
A Bas Kol comes from the heaven 40 days before a child is born (it’s a song now) saying so & so is married to the daughter of so & so. A girl by remaining single is causing her male counterpart to remain single also, nullify a Positive Commandment Obligation.
PLEASE NOTE: I am not trying to pressure you into marrying anyone. I only want to understand the logic behind your train of thought. Please forgive me if I have offended you in anyway.