Spunk – it was your speculation, and I thought that Torah4me concurred.
I wasn’t trying to speak for anyone else. You had pointed out that Torah4me might not be interested in my opinion as you thought that he/she wanted to hear from parents & not from daughters, so I didn’t want him/her to think we weren’t paying attention to his/her request.
I have spent a lot of time responding to your post and then explaining and reexplaining. I hope everyone understands now, and I can stop explaining and reexplaining :).