Lightbrite – Is it possible that you are at a stage that you shouldn’t be dating yet and should be waiting until you are more stabilized in your Yiddishkeit and know where you stand and the direction you are going in?
I am not saying that I know the answer to the question – it is meant as a question and not a statement since I don’t know enough about you. I just think that it is crucial to know what direction you are going in and the type of home you would like to build before you get married.
I am not saying that you have to know 100% exactly what you want your home to look like, but you have to have a basic idea of what your goals are. The fact that you are considering both Reform and Orthodox concerns me.
Obviously, people continue growing their whole lives, but you have to know what your basic hashkafa is and basically the type of home you are looking to build. I get the impression from both this and other posts of yours that you are still in a stage of figuring things out.
I’m also wondering if you have had any type of seminary experience yet and if that would help you figure these things out.