OH hhhh Middlepath, you sound like a gem of a boy. I just love reading your thoughts in posts, and I am thrilled for the girl who will get to be your Queen wife one day. You are so deep and sensitive.
Only your post makes me a little down in the dumps realizing how I got ripped off that my husband is “apologetically disabled” he has a very hard time to say “I am sorry” and it means the world to me. Its a real nisyon for me, who is always quick to apologize, and I get my feelings hurt on a regular basis.Rabbi Avigdor Miller says that searching for one’s spouse is like looking for the one you are going to be constantly be stepping on each other’s toes with. You wait and look and search and then you find them and then its like going through a dance in life wiht this partner but although you may step on each others “toes” once in a while, its good to apologize. You say “oops sorry was that your toe? Are you ok?”
I don’t get that from my husband. He gets real strong and keeps up his stance which hurts me. And I get really hurt, and retract within a shell that gets harder and harder and more brittle over time and I have a personal problem that I can’t forgive easily even if he says sorry 2 days later.