i once had someone take advantage of the fact that i am more on the trusting side. basically this person played a trick on me and it took a while into the conversation to pick up on the inconsistencies. once i figured it out i was REALLY upset that i was taken advantage of. my first reaction was anger of course but once i calmed down about 60 seconds later i told the person how upset i was, that it was over and beyond what is acceptable….. in that conversation the person apologized but i was still hurt. it took me a long time to be able to say “i forgive you for such and such”. it took me about 6 months from when it happened to erev Y”K but i forgave the person. and after i did, it was SUCH a relief that i didn’t have to carry that hurt around. before i forgave the person each time i remembered the situation i felt a flair up of the same emotions. now, its the past. its something to learn from that i am able to forgive and forget. and it reinforced that time heals many things to the point that old scars fade until they are no longer there. even though it took me half a year to forgive, i still pat my self on the back that i did it because i thought i was never going to be able to get over it. but i did!
MP- thanx for this thread. sometimes apologizing is a great thing as hard as it may be