This is the most confusing thing ever. Or maybe for the time being since I’m in this parsha.
A bunch of shiurim, books, real life rabbis talk about how bitachon and emuna are what you need for a shidduch and histadlus is really only to calm one’s nerves and doesn’t affect the outcome.
Then there are all these people yelling to get up and start meeting people, changing your schedule, getting out there, etc because no one is going to get married without effort.