huju………….
again you are attributing words to my post that are not written by me.
I never used the word ‘pretty,’ so to simply have written that my grandmother told me to find a pretty wife is a falsehood.
Grandmother’s admonition was to look at the girl’s mother for a view of what the girl would look like in the future and decide if it was acceptable as a mate.
Some women age more gracefully than others, if a ‘pretty’ 20 year old had a mother who presented herself as a washed out hag the warning signals would go off. OTOH if a plain 20 year old had a mother who presented herself in a well groomed and confident manner, the girl might be someone worthy of consideration as a lifetime mate.