“But in the final analyses Lavender, please do bear this in mind:- This man you are dating wasn’t the problem”
Maybe, maybe not. Many people get divorced because of abuse issues, so you have to make sure. Also, even if it was just personality issues, it is important to find out, because you may also have a problem with those same personality issues.
Even if the issue is our throw-away society, you have to make sure it won’t happen again. There are many men who are twice-divorced, although there are also many men who have wonderful second marriages.