“I feel like its an issue when someone comes from a family of only like 3 kids (frum famlies) than all they want is like 2 – at most 5 kids?”
If someone comes from a family of 3 kids and wants 5 kids, then they’ve gone up!
I agree with you that ideally, people should want more than 5 kids, but there’s nothing you can do about it – certainly not at this stage.
Imho, even though everyone should want to have as many kids as possible, it’s not something they should be doing if they don’t want to and are only doing it because someone pressurred them. Of course they should want to, but you can’t make them want to. And again, you don’t know all the reasons and factors involved.