“Of course, there are different methods, and if your counselor said that’s how he works, then there’s nothing wrong with that.”
Meno, doesn’t this statement contradict the post you had written in a previous thread about how marriage therapy won’t work unless each side is willing to step back a bit?
There is such a thing as bad therapists and I had thought that was your point in the post before this.
If the therapist is starting out by saying his point is “to convince the other side” of something, wouldn’t that be considered bad therapy as it defeats the whole point of therapy? Isn’t the point of marriage therapy to try to work on your marriage, and doesn’t that entail trying to see what you can do differently and trying to understand why the other person feels the way they do and what you can do for them? Isn’t that what marriage is about?
Please clarify. Thanks so much.