Lenny1970 -“She’s threatened to just take her case to the Beis Din to have them order me to give her a Get. I think I’m going to let her threat play out and see what happens. I don’t believe the Beis Din would order me to giver her a Get. In which case we can then go to marriage counseling and she’ll take it seriously; at least that’s my hope”
They never order a Get, unless it’s a dire situation.
It sounds like that you both need your own counseling and then you should both go for marriage therapy, if it’s still needed!
Don’t listen to the posters here – they don’t know what they’re talking about!