Health
“I’m divorced and the other posters don’t know what they’re talking about.”
wouldnt that make you the worst person to give advice to this fellow?
whatever you tried didnt work. though it may very well have been for the best.
Lenny you have a Rabbi who said to give a Get, the counselor you met said he can “guaranty it would not work, but he would not be able to see us because it would be unethical for him to take our money if he knew nothing good could come out of it.”
Health said “do what you can to save your marriage!” And I do agree with him fully. You should do everything you can, but if she wont even talk to you or take counselling seriously, what more can you do?
“the easy thing w/be to cave in & give her a Get. I’m not like that. I’m hoping she has a change of heart if/when the Beis Din shoots down her request to demand me to give her a Get.”
forgive me, but How long do you see yourself holding out hoping for “a change of heart”? A month? a year? a decade? the rest of your lives?