mommamia22…………….
Better for whom? The deceased or the survivors left behind chutz l’aretz?
Visiting and davening at the kever can bring comfort and closure to the surviving family members.
Each person should make his/her desires known to the family, as well as make financial preparations to carry out those wishes.
DO NOT rely on funeral/burial instructions in a will. Jews bury too quickly for a will to be probated and an executor appointed to carry out the instructions in the will.
My family does not send bodies for burial in EY. I can say that it is very comforting to visit 5 generations of our family in the family cemetery in Queens. When my children were pre-adolescents a visit to the family plots help to explain who we are and who we came from. It brought the family tree to life. Seeing the kever and praying at the kever of one for which you are named is a powerful and empowering thing.
You attempted to hijack the thread for a related question, the answer is that it is all about the relatives and their desires….
There is no one answer: better or worse.