DY, Regarding your second to last post – You said that you think the main reason for divorce (in the cases you know of) was that at least one did not want it to work. Why do you think that one of them didn’t want it to work? Do you think that:
1. That’s just life. Sometimes people end up married to people who are not right for them and there’s nothing that anyone can do about it because there was is way to know beforehand.
2. Someone had a serious problem that there was no way to know beforehand.
3. Someone had a serious problem that could have been known beforehand.
4. They weren’t a good shidduch, maybe one of them didn’t really like the other one enough to be marrying them, but felt pressurred to get married and this could have been prevented if they either had gone out longer or there had been less pressure put on them or they had used more common sense before getting engaged.
5. The marriage could have worked out if both had been willing to make it work.
or 6. You have no idea. How could you possibly know?