Being real – I do know many people who were in the system for a while. I know all the frustrations they experienced after crossing off yet another name, and the understanding they reached when they finally did meet the right one. I still think there is an approach that people have to the system which is causing it to be less effective. For instance, the problem is far worse in America than it is in England. Additionally, some circles (such as Chassidim) do not have the same problem with shidduchim as other circles. So perhaps this does go to show that the conservative method of shidduchim does work better, and therefore does not need change. What has possibly gone wrong here is that new ideas have been introduced into the shidduch process, and also some very superficial thinking from prospective parents-in-law or even the boy/girl themselves. Unfortunately, much of this superficiality has come from the culture that surrounds us today.
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