Lu’l: How do you go out fairly with the person on Thursday or Friday, knowing the whole time that you have another date set up on motzai Shabbos? I would think that the person is not able to properly focus on the person they are speaking with. They may be incorrectly looking for the “spark” that this is the one. Not everybody can make such an impressive first impression that they will be selected as “the shidduch”, but rather may take some time to get to know the inner person and realize what a good person s/he is and that it would be a very good shidduch for the person in question. But unfortunately, because the person in question was, perhaps we could call it, speed dating, they were not able to give proper attention to the first person and just bypassed them.
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