Wolf -“And if the fact that I won’t dictate my daughter’s choice of spouse makes me a rotten, horrible Jew, then so be it.”
It doesn’t make you a horrible Jew if you don’t, but you lose that Zecus. Acc. to you – you are going to be in hot water in the next world -so I gave you an idea how to lessen the pain.
And there is no reason not to dictate, if anything since you are trying to be as bad as possible, dictating things against people’s will -will you help you go in that direction.