Lets put the halachic inquiry on the side for a moment. My nephew is getting married and I am told there will be a mitzva tantz, and of course as a “choshuve” uncle I will be “called up”. Coming from a family of litvaks, what does it mean “called up” by a mitzva tantz. what am I expected to do, or not do. The only marching orders I have from my wife are, “dont make a fool out of yourself”. I am also told that I should be sure to “tip the badchan”. How much of a tip do you give? why would I give him a tip anyway, I dont tip the waiters by the meal, or the musicians after the dancing. Is the badchan hired and paid by someone, or does the bulk of his wages come from tips like the coat room attendant and the valet parking guys? Does it depend on the stature of the badchan, does it depend on what he says about me and how much chanifa comes my way before he calls me up? My preference is to leave after birchas hamazon, but for matter of shalom bayis, I have no choice but to stay and (hopefully) enjoy the festivities.
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