Sac:
I am not dancing around the issue. You will find I said the precise same thing at the beginning of this thread.
You will also notice, that we do still disagree. Within the normal realm, you think that it is like cheeseburgers, an inappropriate desire which can and should be controlled. I think the desire for an attractive (to you) spouse is normal, and proper.
I don’t think this goes against Judaism. I don’t think it is something that a guy should be working against.