That is a differnece between us. You think if I let the teen win, I am surrendering. I look at it very differently. Should I battle over a pair of shoes that covers the ankles or should I battle over a blouse that does not fully cover the elbows.
If you want to battle both, that is your decision, however too many of these battles if you win, the teen will begin to hate Yiddishkeit and then you lose the war.
Id rather lose the battle over the shoes that covers the ankles than lose the war