“I don’t believe in a God who would distance Himself from such a man just for observing what I feel is common courtesy.”
that is your fundamental tragedy
you want to make Hashem be what YOU think He should be.
you should, instead, be working on making yourself what He wants you to be. yes even if it clashes with the attitudes you have absorbed from this illusory modern world, and it’s modern movements.
you dont seem to understand the most basic and crucial fundamentals of what it means to be a daughter of Hashem.