jewishfeminist02,
Marriage is not supposed to be equal partners. H-m created women and men differently and there is absolutely nothing you or anyone else can do about it. The only One you can argue with is H-m. It has nothing to do with being heretical or not. It has to do with logic. A man cannot become a woman and vice versa. Yes, a man can cook and clean (my husband does plenty of that) and a woman can learn/work but there are certain things that cannot change no matter what you do!