ujm;gavra at work–that kind of training for girls must come from the home…It’s rare that a 10 month seminary experience could change around an attitude that was learned over 18 years–not impossible, but rare.
I find in the not so often occasions on my trips to the larger frum communities that there are many girls who sincerely want a ben Torah, who will shteig, and they want to sacrifice for a Torah home. They don’t fit the description of ujm at all, but have a challenging time with shidduchim none the less. Oh, and these girls know that the boy is looking to date a girl NOT a chavrusa.