Kiruvwife, maybe lets think about it this way.
You are the “top learner in XYZ yeshiva.” People are setting you up with the best girls (middos/frumkeit wise). Some of these girls also have money – the money will ensure that you can keep learning for the rest of your life. Maybe its just being practical?
[eh, I’m cynical and don’t think the system should progress like this, but I am not really sure what the answer is]