GAW absolutely-I like that approach (the giver approach not the mishna)
yes sjs, I hear the practical end…in that case it is a nisayon….but I do believe b’laiv molay that there are good shtark bochurim that are looking for a girl who will be moser nefesh for Torah, and don’t want to rely on the “money is the answer to my learning” approach.
There is so much fluff and icing in this thought process, which when the essence of real life comes out, the reality of what life should be in the deepest sense of ruchiniyus, it comes down like a heavy load. This comes from a lack of real emesdik thinking, and an aversion to being real.