I’m not ????? to the ???? from ???”?. You can be ???? ????? with ??? also. ??? ???, if the ??? doesn’t include ??? ?? ????, than if ????? you used ??? for ????? (or ?????) it’s considered ??? ?? ????.
But you can only use ??? if you have no ???. If they were equivalent than the neder would also forbid him from drinking kiddush wine.