Reply To: Lashon hara question

So I just came into this post after a long day and many comments.

The difference comes from what is acknowledging the unspoken here.

I, at 20, was a whole different person. I literally had a best friend who would pull my arm whenever a guy was talking to me. He would ask me questions, and I answered to be nice and thought that anyone who asks me questions really wants to know the answers.

I, by 30, realized that some guys are not straight-forward. Some make excuses to talk to me. Many of these some guys are toxic.

The rest of the guys that I talked to were there for a reason, gave me insight on something with a brief conversation, a crossing of paths. Half of the humans that I talk to happen to be guys.

Thanks to one guy that I talked to one a random day, I now have an awesome friend — his wife! She is helping me grow in Yiddishkeit way beyond anyone else that I’ve known IRL. Sometimes Hashem bestows Hashgacha Pratis in ways that maybe would have not worked over ten years ago.