Lesschumras: “LU, LB is obviously sincere but also quite naive. You can’t accept and and treat every minhag and old wives tale the same. From what I’ve seen, to her every word of every Rav must be believed as halacha mSenai. Somewhere and somehow she has to develop the ability to separate the wheat from the chaff. Utter naivete can be as ultimately problematic as utter cynicism”
True, and I don’t think anyone would disagree with you on what you wrote in this post. The problem was the way it was phrased in the original post. This is much better, I think (although we can let LB be the judge of that).
At the same time though, try to keep in mind that it’s not so simple l’maaseh. She is a beginner and she is trying to figure things out and Judaism is confusing. And while everyone keeps telling her she needs a Rav or that she shouldn’t believe what everyone tells her, she has to first figure out who that Rav should be and what hashkafa he should have, and she can only do that by investigating and exploring and questioning and trying to figure things out. That is exactly what she is trying to do with her questions!
If she is asking questions, it is precisely BECAUSE she is not simply accepting everything but is in fact trying to figure things out.
It’s a process and she is doing a good job of proceeding.