Rebshidduch – I am glad you are asking the question, but I think that you are capable of figuring the answer out yourself. I think that is true of all the questions you have been asking on this topic as well.
It may make it easier for you to think things through when you type up and post your dilemmas, so you might want to continue doing so, but at the the end of the day, I think you are the one who needs to come up with the answers, and I think you are quite capable of doing so.