Mammele – that’s not exactly the way I see it, or at least I don’t think it’s the whole picture, although it might be part of it. I think she is looking for encouragement to do what she knows is the right thing to do but finds too difficult to do.
On the other hand, because it is so hard for her, she gets defensive when she is given the encouragement she is seeking and switches back to the other side.
I could be wrong. There really is no way to know, because l’maaseh this is something exceedingly difficult for her.