Reply To: Kabbalas Loshon Horo

I didn’t discuss the shailah with him; I told him the story as it was and he told me I did the right thing. He didn’t explain his rationale and I didn’t ask.

I asked my fathers opinion before I told him that I had discussed it with the Rav. I wanted to hear his reaction, and I didn’t want him to hold it back because of a Rav I had asked. Once I told him the Rav’s psak, he told me that I had nothing to worry about.

I did discuss this at a later point with a Rosh Yeshiva (a very distinguished Rosh Yeshiva with unparalleled yashrus, and one who gives a weekly shiur on Hilchos Loshon Hara), but I unfortunately do not remember his response. I didn’t tell him the story (I was too embarrassed), I just asked him to clarify a few points which I felt were nogea, and I don’t remember his response.

Bringing up the shailah to the posek again is something I do not want to do.

Since I saw what the Chazon Ish writes in Emunah uBitachon about calling a Rav נוגע בדבר, I have abstained from accusing any Moreh Hor’ah of such things, least of all a Rav of this caliber.

As to Point 7, it is something that has occurred to me a few times. You touched upon this earlier when you wrote about something that wasn’t toieles and subsequently becomes toieles, are you allowed to be ma’amin it.