People definitely need to relax. Its a hard balance what to shelter how to shelter gimme shelter. Too sheltered doesnt really work anymore cuz stuff are seeping in through all the cracks, a shame cuz there is nowhere completely safe anymore (even in yeshiva r”l). No shelter at all and a person gets swept away by the storm. The current is strong though, so parents are petrified that the little bit they give in will be dangerous.
Listen, the difference between ok and too late happens quickly without anyone realizing even the person himself. (btw, its a little silly to say all OOT yeshivas are bad, plus there are always tons people that dont fall into the “mainstream regular” (cough) category who should def go to another yeshiva)