Joseph, men should become lawyers and CPAs and put in 3,000 billable hours per month as per the ketubot they signed so that their wives can stay home and make on-line purchases. When will the men learn? On shabbatot and moedim. The rest of the time they will suffice with keriat shema morning and evening.
So far as the OP’s question, just as there is no free lunch there is no free day care. Someone has to pay.