There is an amazing true story a rabbi shared in a shiur!!!
Husband and wife got married.
Shortly after wedding they took a walk on the beach.
They come back.
The wife couldn’t find her ring! It wasn’t on her finger.
Where was the ring?
Shhh don’t tell family, we’ll find it.
Went back to the beach. Looked everywhere.
Told family. Both sides went searching.
No avail! No ring! Husband’s family so angry!
After that, every time husband and wife were with husband’s family, they put her down. “Oh I want to give you ….. but I know you’ll lose it, so I’m giving it to your husband so he makes sure that it doesn’t disappear” snark snark
Wife felt so bad. Year after year. So ashamed.
Many years many many years later, husband and wife go somewhere and husband wears same tux jacket from wedding night
Husband finds wedding ring! Wife must have asked him to keep it safe before they walked on the beach! Was there safe all along! Wow!!!
Wife vindicated!
From that point wife makes fun of husband. Finds ways to put him down about being so forgetful. All this time she was the responsible one! Husband takes it without a word.
Years later. Years years many years later! Husband and wife were in a financial bind. Wife wanted to sell the ring. Make the sacrifice for them.
She takes the ring to a jeweler for an appraisal.
She tells the jeweler it’s approximate value.
Jeweler says no. No way. Sorry lady.
Wife goes home and searches all around for the ring’s papers. She finds a receipt. The purchase of the ring was made right before she and husband went to that event where he wore the tux jacket!
Confronts husband. Husband confesses. He felt so horrible at how ashamed she felt and how his family treated her that he saved up year after year to finally but her a new diamond ring.
This ring was worth more than the first one!
Wife said, “All these years I was so mean to you, and you said nothing when all along you knew the truth and kept it secret?!”
Yes.