Interesting J.
Syag heard like that also from a choshuveh person and he said that was indeed a reason why some dont want hespedim.
Bmyer, i hear. Dont fully know how that fits in line with what im saying but if they say so its true.
Think theres a famous thing from rav dessler that when youre allowed to lie then its called emes but to my knowledge big people were machmir to try to keep it close to the truth and idk if everyone agrees with him.