ubiq- thank you. I like your post too much to bother dissecting it (with comments, not rebuttals).
I think part of what I was saying, besides what you touched on already, is that I don’t enjoy controversy or arguments (I would never make it in the bais medrash). Five years ago I could bring up a topic, and how I reacted to it ,and how I felt about my reaction, and I know that I would get empathy, chizuk, differing opinions and probably different ways to view the situation. To me, those discussions were what I was looking for, needing, appreciating from my anonymous online peers. If the response is to assess and comment on my thought, or politicize the viewpoint, I may not take it personally but I won’t find it enjoyable or purposeful. It won’t fulfil any personal purpose. Which is my own reasoning for not sharing, but on certain subjects if I know someone ELSE will share, EXPECTING that chizuk and empathy on such a personal topic but might not know that they may end up with a slam, I worry about THAT person.
And on the other hand I am concerned by the laxity of some posters who will condone free choice in areas that the Torah does not allow. (As I have seen do much harm to friends who visit other ‘jewish’ websites)
I don’t know if this is clear. It’s hard to explain these types of emotions. I am guessing those who experienced it themselves may know what I am talking about.
thanks again